Healing Beyond the Surface: Cult Expectations, Trauma, and Recovery

In this episode of How to Leave a Cult, we dive deep into how living under a cult’s control affects us long after we’ve left. We start by exploring the 80/20 iceberg theory, which reveals how explicit rules and hidden expectations from cult life shape our recovery from trauma. I share the emotional journey of my child's birth, where the pressure to meet cult standards—like having a home birth—led to feelings of failure when I needed to go to the hospital.

Through personal experiences, we explore how healing is like peeling layers off an onion, addressing each painful emotion—grief, anger, and hurt—without judgment. This episode helps us see the importance of sitting with these emotions and finding the hidden gifts that come from facing our trauma. Whether you're in the process of leaving a controlling group or working through past wounds, this episode offers insight into how to break free and heal.